Dealing with Loss

by MichelleR on March 21, 2013

Losing someone that you love is very painful, whether it was expected or it was sudden.  You may experience a whirlwind of emotions that leave you mentally and physically exhausted, wondering if this is killing you or making you stronger- It’s making you stronger!

Grief is a natural response to loss.  It is the emotional suffering you feel when a loved one has been taken from you.  The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief.  There is no right or wrong way to grieve, it is completely an individual and personal experience.  How you grieve depends on many factors, including, your personality and coping style, your faith, and the nature of the loss.  You know the saying, “Time will heal”? Well, it’s true. There is no window of time for the grieving process; It takes time and it happens gradually.  The most important thing is to be patient with yourself and allow the process to unfold.  Do not grieve alone!  Connection to others will help you heal. (helpguide.org)

Learning how to deal with your grief is essential to moving on with your life.  Moving on with your life does not mean you are forgetting or dismissing your loved one; It just means that you must continue to live your life.  Gaining coping skills will help you do this.  It is essential to your healing that you express and experience your grief fully.  Helpguide.org offers some healthy ways to cope:

1. Get Support! Allow the people closest to you to be someone to lean on.  Accept assistance that is offered. When there is a loss in the family, so many people say, “Let me know if there is anything I can do.” People want to help, but often times don’t know what to do to help, so be vocal and let them know what you need!  If you are religious, get comfort from your faith.  Practicing spritual rituals that are important to you can sooth your soul.  Also, look into joining a support group, or starting one of your own.  To find a bereavement group in your area contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral homes, and counseling centers.  Talking to a grief counselor or therapist can only be helpful, try it!

2. Take care of yourself!  When your grieving, the emotional distress can take years off your life.  It’s important to face your feelings. In order to heal you have to aknowledge the pain.  Trying to avoid your feelings only delays the grieving process.

3. Express your feelings in a tangible or creative way.  Write about your loss in a journal.  Or, if there were any unresolved feelings, or things that you never got to tell your loved one, write them a letter.  If you enjoy being a little more artisitc, put a scrapbook together celebrating the person’s life.  Another way to honor thier life is to get involved in a cause or charity that was important to them.

4. Take care of your physical health!  It’s simple. The mind and body are joined, so when your body feels good, your state of mind is better.

 

There are so many other things that you can do to help you get through this difficult time.  The thing to remember is to stay true to yourself and don’t push people away.

 

 

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